Reflecting on my wedding — 2 years later
This week, my husband and I celebrated our second wedding anniversary. Not only are we celebrating this beautiful milestone, but we're also expecting our first baby! It’s honestly crazy how quickly time flies…
Since our anniversary was earlier this week, I decided to reflect on my wedding (which was amazing btw) and break down my 5 biggest regrets and the 5 things I wouldn’t change for the world. So, here they are!
5 Things I Regret About My Wedding:
Plan the Photos Better: Our photographer was great, she captured the essence of our big day beautifully. Yet, I wish we had been given a bit more direction. In retrospect, I should have insisted on more 'candid'/fun shots – and ultimately if I would have thought a bit more about the photos I would actually want afterward, I think we would have gotten them!
The Officiant: Initially, we had planned to have a close family member officiate the wedding, but this plan fell through. Our last-minute replacement was professional and friendly, yet I can’t help but feel strange about having an absolute stranger in our wedding photos…
The Guest List: Marrying in June 2021 meant navigating the challenges of COVID restrictions. We had to limit our guest list to 50 attendees. Although every single guest holds a special place in our hearts, I wish we could have extended a few more invitations to loved ones who couldn't be there.
Not Hiring a Wedding Planner: I coordinated most of the wedding myself. And while it was an experience I would not trade for anything, the stress was overwhelming at times. Looking back, a wedding planner or day-of-coordinator could have alleviated some of the pressure and helped me (and a few key guests) just relax and enjoy the day a bit more.
Final Dress Fitting: My wedding dress is still one of my favourite parts of our wedding. But, the dress was slightly too big on our wedding day, which I notice in almost all of our photos. I wish I had taken someone with me to the final fitting to get a second opinion (not sure why I didn’t???) before it was too late to make any more changes.
5 Things You Couldn’t Pay Me To Change About My Wedding:
Our Ring Bearer: We had our dog, Cupertino, as our ring bearer! This was super special, extremely cute, and one of my favourite memories from the wedding. Logistics? We sent him down the aisle with my brother, with a little pouch attached to his collar holding the rings. It was perfect.
Informality: I didn’t want a super traditional wedding, so we strayed from the traditional wedding format, which suited our personalities perfectly. Our ceremony was short and sweet, followed by an energetic party that flowed naturally without sticking to a rigid schedule. We skipped the speeches, first dance, cake cutting, and all that boring stuff — and I have no regrets at all!
The Food: We went for a relaxed, "food truck" style dining setup. Small plates, served over several hours, allowed our guests to mix, mingle, and enjoy an array of delicious dishes.
The First Look: I just found this to be a really special moment for me and my husband-to-be.
My Groom: Two years on, I can confidently say that marrying my husband was the best decision I have ever made. I’m still so excited to spend the rest of our lives together and ready to embark on a new journey together: parenthood.
Weddings are a beautiful chaos of emotions, planning, and joy. As I reflect on my journey, I realize that it's the perfect mix of unforgettable moments and learning experiences that make for an incredible life story.
Love,
